When I was 25 years old and fresh out of college with a masters degree, I started working with troubled foster kids.
Their situation was awful. It seemed like things could never change for them.
They couldn't say how they felt. They would isolate. They couldn't listen. They were almost unreachable.
They would scream at each other because inside they were hurting. They couldn't cope with all that had happened to them. All the change.
It made perfect sense why they were so out of control- they had been through so much.
I felt helpless too. I felt so guilty that I couldn't do better with these poor kids! I felt like a failure as a new counselor.
They were lost. And I was lost on how to help them.
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One day, as I was trying to connect with these kids, this young-ish guy walks in smiling.
He plopped right down on the floor with them, picked up some toys and started playing and chatting away with these children.
At first, I thought, "Oh yeah. Like that's gonna help...just play with them and they'll open right up, sure."
But then as I watched, magic started to happen.
As he played with them, and connected with them, these kids quickly fell under his spell: They calmed down; they came out of their shells; they listened with spell-bound attention, and he just chatted with them quietly.
In a few moments they were open, respectful and seemed like they felt better just about who they were.
And then the guy just got up and strolled out. He was like "Mr. Rogers" or "The Pied Piper of Kids", only in real life! My jaw just hung open...
And at that moment, I knew I wanted what he had. I wanted that kind of skill with kids that are having big problems. I wanted those results; and most, I wanted to be able to make kids feel like they belonged and were safe.
I took a chance and reached out to that counselor (a Registered Play Therapist) that day, and that decision changed my life.
Later, I went through the training, the supervision, and all the certifications to become a fully Registered Play Therapist- and later, a Registered Play Therapist Supervisor- a "teacher" of Registered Play Therapists.
➤ How to help kids who were struggling
➤ How to nurture confidence and self-esteem in kids
➤ How to make bad behaviors disappear
➤ How to make children feel deeply loved, respected and heard
➤ How to help a child have self-esteem,to be happy again
Later, it became my passion to teach parents how to use these same skills with their own children, and how to help their kids finally feel and do better.
When kids feel better, they do better.
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Kim McFarland guided me on this path. The tools she taught me will carry me throughout my life... At age 70, I was alone, depressed, exhausted and who knows in what stage of grief. I sought professional help. I chose to take these sessions seriously and to do the work. Not always easy. My gift to my family is a healthy and independent me. Healthy of body, mind, spirit and emotions...I thought I knew myself. Now I found a path to know myself better.
-Female, age 70
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